I'm a Star.

mystandards: Awww, the faster you learn this, the safer your...

Mon, 28 Jan 2013 23:09:33 +0800

Awww, the faster you learn this, the safer your heart will be!

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Mon, 28 Jan 2013 23:08:07 +0800

LOVE IS A DECISION. Not just a feeling.

Sun, 27 Jan 2013 00:29:15 +0800

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Are you with the right partner?

During an open forum, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The speaker then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the speaker.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their individual or unique characteristics . Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept off my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s individual or unique characteristics , instead of being cute, it’ll drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: It’s not pre-determined who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO.

Tonight I’m gonna get drunk. So that I’d feel a...

Tue, 22 Jan 2013 21:59:49 +0800

Tonight I’m gonna get drunk. So that I’d feel a little numb.

Love is patient, love is kind. It always protects, always...

Mon, 21 Jan 2013 13:32:53 +0800

Love is patient, love is kind. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

"You find a way, somehow, to get through the most horrible things, things you think would kill you...."

Sat, 19 Jan 2013 16:17:08 +0800

“You find a way, somehow, to get through the most horrible things, things you think would kill you. You find a way and you move through the days, one by one, in shock, in despair, but you move. The days pass, one after the other, and you go along with them — occasionally stunned, and not entirely relieved, to find that you are still alive.”

- “The Year of Fog” by Michelle Richmond (via fuckinq)

It’s a cold rainy day.

Sat, 19 Jan 2013 12:32:38 +0800

It’s a cold rainy day.

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Fri, 18 Jan 2013 22:13:44 +0800

mystandards: Never play with anyone’s feelings. You can do much...

Fri, 18 Jan 2013 22:12:51 +0800

mystandards:

Never play with anyone’s feelings. You can do much more harm than you think.

Last year was the best year for me for we’ve made...

Wed, 09 Jan 2013 04:25:19 +0800

Last year was the best year for me for we’ve made wonderful memories together. I’ll always be thankful to God for meeting you.

You are a great person with a genuine heart. Sometimes, we fail and make mistakes in our lives. These things help us learn and live a more valuable life. When we stumble and fall, just make sure we’re never afraid to stand up again and fight. Because that’s what matters, life is a living war. It never ends unless you give up.

Just like love, it’s a never-ending journey with lots of humps and rocky roads. After all, we’re not after the smooth road, we’re after the destination that we’re looking forward to. It never ends, a story full of happiness and pain, unless we stop and give up.

I’m not giving up. God knows how I feel towards you. In order to love truly, we must experience pain. We may not end up together, but I’ll never stop loving you.

laracarmelli: Failing is part of learning…

Wed, 09 Jan 2013 04:11:51 +0800

laracarmelli:

Failing is part of learning…

Rainbow.

Wed, 02 Jan 2013 01:20:44 +0800

On the first day of the year, God told me a very important message.

The following days of my year could be rough and shaky. He’s not promising a very smooth one, nor a perfect one.

But what he wanted me to know to live by through the whole new year, is that no matter how hard life will be, but with longer patience, deeper understanding and stronger faith, everything will be alright.

And at the end of the day, you’ll still sleep with a smile on your face.

This new year is ready for us to fill it up with wonderful and meaningful memories. I wish everyone a better and brighter year! :)

PS.
I love you Sayang.
Always & Forever.

When the time comes that we are already grown ups, we just wish that we could turn back time.

Sun, 30 Dec 2012 03:46:52 +0800

I couldn’t sleep, thinking of random thoughts. Lying here on my bed feels so strange.

I miss every night that I would sleep here and go to school when I wake up. I miss my messy room that would be tidied up after so many months of procrastinating. I miss our living room where I would slack myself while watching some random local series at our television. I miss relaxing at home, playing with Star, my dog, while waiting for my mom to finish her cooking. I miss playing Diner Dash until the next morning just to finish all stages of each restaurant. I miss hearing the unending nags of my mom when all I do is nothing and laziness is my specialty.

Oh, I miss going to school where we would skip classes just to eat at the nearby shop, or drink if you want me to say it. I miss the feeling when the college announces that our class is dismissed due to upcoming heavy rain. I miss how we cram when we have to meet so many deadlines for our very demanding projects. I miss wearing my uniform and that green scarf with my red high stilettos.

It’s true that when we’re at the stage of adolescence we tend to rush things and aspire to be an adult. And then when the time comes that we are already grown ups, we just wish that we could turn back time.

As the sun will rise in few hours, I have to settle all the things that I should bring along with me in Singapore. Then work has to resume again after a short but meaningful vacation of mine. Then there is, where it happens everyday, my current routine that for sure will also be missed in the future.

As I write this, it makes me wonder, when will be the next time that I would be lying on this bed and ponder on random things like this again?

Maybe soon or, maybe later.

12/30/12
4:23 AM

Could this be?

Sun, 25 Nov 2012 00:26:48 +0800

Counting the days. Almost half a year. I’m so happy. :)

you still an active blogger? :)

Mon, 29 Oct 2012 23:36:50 +0800

Not anymore. Haha!

Live life as it should be lived.

Thu, 11 Oct 2012 08:49:57 +0800

Live life as it should be lived.

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Thu, 11 Oct 2012 08:49:17 +0800

rosebudtz: Bought few months ago, only eat now. Hehe :) Bought...

Tue, 28 Aug 2012 12:53:49 +0800

rosebudtz:

Bought few months ago, only eat now. Hehe :)

Bought with me, but never eat with me? Hehe

colabph: We know we’re all workaholics, but we hope you set...

Mon, 27 Aug 2012 00:10:11 +0800

colabph:

We know we’re all workaholics, but we hope you set aside a day in this long weekend to catch up on sleep! You know why?

Because less sleep increases your risk for diabetes & heart attacks, decreases your alertness & creativity, and MAKES YOU GAIN WEIGHT.

Get some rest, coworkers! Hope you’re having a great long weekend so far!

(Infographic via yourlocalsecurity.com)

Does this mean “I love you so much”? Hehe. Thank...

Fri, 24 Aug 2012 21:16:04 +0800

Does this mean “I love you so much”? Hehe. Thank you! I love you too! :)